As time passes, you may feel as if your chances of getting your ex girlfriend back are getting slimmer by the minute.  While it may feel this way, it actually is working greatly to your advantage.  You may be asking yourself – how the heck could this be working to my advantage?

To better illustrate my point, let me describe it in other terms.  Do you remember that first girlfriend you had back in the day or that girl you dated back in high school?  Do you remember all of the feelings you had for this person?  Now, remember what happened the last time you ran into them.  It may have been a few years or more than a few years since you last saw her.  However, the first time you see her again you get those weird feelings.

And not the bad ones either.  You start to think back and reminisce about the fun times you had together.  You start to think about all of great and funny moments that you shared.  And then you are brought back to reality because you are no longer together.  And that in a nutshell is really my point.

You see, getting your ex girlfriend back really works to your advantage, even if it has been a long time.  In fact, in some cases the longer the better.  What do you think will happen when she sees your face or sees your number pop up on her phone?  There is no denying that she will be forced to remember immediately all of the great times you had together, the laughs you shared and the intimate moments enjoying each other’s company.

Don’t get me wrong, she will of course remember the breakup, but by now the wounds would have healed over pretty well and she may very well be thinking that a reunion may be in order.  She will be more open to trying to start over, now that she has had the time to process her feelings and get through the breakup.  It is really up to you at this point to really make the effort to show her that you are the guy that she originally fell in love with.  It is up to you to really show her the guy that you are today and that she can not only count on you, but can trust that you are in a different place in your life and will not take your relationship with her for granted.

Getting your ex back for good is really THE tough part.  Sure you can be manipulative and do things to push their buttons to get them back, but it will be short lived.  If you really want to get your ex back for good, then you will have to do one thing – change.

Yeah, yeah I know you already heard it before.  BUT, if you really want things to work out this time, then you will need to make some changes.  Now, I am not talking about changing everything about you, what I am talking about is changing the things that brought your relationship to an end.

You contributed in some way to the breakup, make no mistake about it.  What you need to do is some real quality thinking about what you did to contribute to it.  Were you mean-spirited? Did you drink a little more than you should have? Did you cheat?

All of the things that you did wrong to bring about your breakup need to be looked at and fixed.  YOU need to really look at your situation and figure out what you did wrong and what you can do to make things right.  YOU need to sit down and do some serious soul searching to see what need to work on and change to get your girl back.

This is really the path to getting your ex back.  Failure to do so will lead to a short term reunion followed by a permanent breakup.  Don’t believe me?  Take a look at this scenario.

Dick and Jenny are broken up because Dick drank alcohol too often.  He promises Jenny that he has slowed down and is on the way to quitsville.  They get back together and things are good for a week.  Then Dick tells Jenny he is meeting up with friends to watch the game.  He comes home drunk and stumbling all over the place.  A fight starts with Jenny.

Jenny realizes nothing has changed and leaves.

Dick is ALL ALONE – Again.

Dick didn’t really change.  He SAID he did to get Jenny back.  Once she SAW the truth it made her decision easy.

Don’t be a Dick, sorry couldn’t help it.  Make the change real and make it for good and watch how fast your ex comes back to you for good.

In the struggle to get your ex back, there is typically one BIG thing standing in a guy’s way to be able to win back the love of his life.  Do you know what that ONE thing is?

That ONE BIG THING is YOU.  Believe it or not, you are the biggest thing standing in the way of successfully winning your girl back.  Allow me to explain.  The one thing that your ex is so desperately trying to figure out is whether or not she should work things out with you.  She is thinking about it ALL the time, whether you choose to believe that or not.

The problem is if you are always around bugging her, she won’t be able to come to the conclusion to work things out with you. If you are always there telling her that she needs to get back with you, then she WON’T.

Don’t believe me?  Just try calling all the time or try stopping by all the time and see whether or not getting your ex back will be a piece of cake or not.  Now, I am not saying to give up all hope and just throw the idea of getting your ex back out the window.  What I am saying is that you need to step back and stop letting yourself get in the way of winning her heart back.

The space will do you good, heck it will do the both of you some good.  It will give you the chance to miss each other and will ultimately give her the time she needs to really see how much you mean to her.  Keep standing in the way and she won’t be able to see past that.

Stop standing in the way to get your ex back.  Give her some room to breathe and figure out what you need to do to win her heart back.  If you need some help then have a look around, there are tons of resources here at your disposal.

To you success!

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If you got here from the pop quiz on the home page, then the answer to the quiz question is this:
 
All of the above.

Honestly, the biggest mistake you are making right now, which just happens to be the exact same mistake I made was not to give my ex any room to breathe.

I was calling all the time, showing up at her home and work unannounced, saying that I had changed when I did not and begged and pleaded with her to take me back.

I was not showing her any respect as far as her asking for space.  I was not allowing her time to think and actually get a chance to miss me as a result of my constant contact.  I was basically shooting myself in the foot with every dumb mistake after another.

And this is exactly why I need you to understand that the best thing you can do to try and win your girl back is to take some time away.  I know that it will be hard, but it really is the best thing for you to mend this relationship.

The saying that absence makes the heart grow fonder is totally true.  Think about this for a minute, when she ignores you and does not return your calls or emails or text messages, what does it make you do?

Does it make you want her more or less?  I know you already know the answer to this one.

Stop making this huge mistake and start working on a plan to actually get her back.  Someone once told me – “Failing to plan is planning to fail.”

This rings true in so many situations, and especially so in yours. 

What you need to do is plan.  Plan on what you will say when you do talk to her, plan on what you will do when you feel the urge to call, plan on what you need to do to get over the pain. 

Right now is the time that will make or break getting her back.  Your window is closing quickly and if you do not take the correct steps you could lose her for good.  Heed my advice and take some time away and strategically plan out your steps to win her back. 

Ready to make those plans?  Good, get going. 

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Yeah, it sucks to hear, but if you are begging and pleading your ex to take you back, then please man up.

Women don’t want a guy that has no backbone who begs and pleads with them.  They want a man who is strong and stands up for himself.  They want a man that will take things, well, like a man.  And this does not involve any begging and pleading.

If you find yourself doing this, then you need to put an end to it right now.  Besides, it will not get you any where.  Think about a kid who whines and begs and pleads, most of the time they will not get what they want and in this case it is no different.

If you feel like you will start begging and pleading then you need to walk away – immediately.  If you feel the urge to beg for her to come back to you, then you need to either get off the phone or leave the situation.  It will only make things worse and will make you look really bad. 

If she sees that you are not strong enough to get through this, she will start to question what the future of any type of relationship with you will hold. 

Will you bend and beg when things go badly and not stand up for yourself?  Will you just lay down when things get tough?

These are questions that your ex is thinking about and the thoughts that are running through her mind when she is trying to decide whether or not to get back together with you. 

Man up and stop begging and pleading her to come back or she never will.

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One of the things that bug me is empty promises.  When someone says to me that they will do something and they don’t or that they have done something and I find out that they did not, it annoys me to no end.  And I am sure that it is much the same with you. 

The knee jerk reaction that many guys have when they are trying to win their girl back is to say “I have changed.  I am not the way I used to be.”

Now, if you really have not changed at all, please don’t say this.  If you do you will grow to regret it once she sees that you are full of it and have not changed at all. 

I will give you an example.  A friend of mine, lets call him Mike, broke up with his girlfriend because of his jealousy.  After months of begging, calling and saying that he had changed, she gave in and invited him over for her birthday party.

All was fine until he blew up because she was talking to another guy.  She asked him to leave and never call her again.  The guy she was talking to – her cousin who was catching up with her as they had not seen each other in a few years.

The invitation to the party was to test Mike out to see if he had in fact changed or if he was still the jealous controlling person he was when they were dating.  That was all she needed to see to make her final decision. 

Had Mike really changed, they would most likely be together, but unfortunately his actions did the speaking for him and ruined all of his chances of getting her back.

If there is something in your life that needs to get taken care of like an anger issue or a problem with jealousy, then take care of it.  Make the changes you need to in order to win her back. 

Just be sure that the changes are real and not just empty promises or you could lose her for good.

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Okay, so you have been playing out this scenario out in your head right?  You pick up some flowers and candy, show up at her work place and ride in on your white horse.  She in turn falls to pieces and is bound to take you back, right?

WRONG.

Very, very wrong.

Take my advice, because I actually went down this road.  Want to know what happened?

My ex told all of her female co-workers about our breakup and naturally they were on her side.  Not only was my ex annoyed when I showed up, but she did not even want to take the gifts I brought her.  To top things off, all of her co-workers gave me the dirtiest looks imaginable. 

Don’t make it a public thing. You really are only doing this because you think it is what you need to do to win her back. 

Now, not only is this a waste of time and money, but you will leave the situation feeling worse and trust me, this is not how you want to be feeling, especially at a time like this.

Put yourself in her shoes.  If you asked for some space and she showed up at your job while you were working, imagine how uncomfortable it would make you feel.

Imagine how annoyed you would feel.  Respect the boundaries that she has set and try your best to put yourself in her position.  Doing so will make getting her back much more easy.

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One of the dumbest things that I did when I was trying to get my ex girlfriend back was to call and call and call.  The way I saw it, the more I called, the more I was showing her that I cared about our relationship and that I wanted to work things out.

Slowly but surely, she got annoyed with the calls.  Mostly because all I was saying was that I had changed and that we needed to be together. 

She saw through that pretty quickly.  If you are doing the same thing right now then please – STOP IT!

You are ruining your chances more than you could ever know.  If you find yourself calling over and over again and find that the conversations are ending pretty badly or abruptly with her hanging up or not even answering the phone, then you need to lay off the calling. 

Calling incessantly will only make things worse for you.  It will show her that you really only care about yourself.  You will show her that you don’t care how she feels so long as you are able to call and get what you want. 

This will only push her further and further away from you. 

Further away from any chance that you have of making things work, unless it is urgent or an emergency then you need to stay away from the phone as much as possible.

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